BKC Solutions Corner

The harm caused by paternity fraud is not in doubt.  Think about this…  A Woman’s Day poll shows that 50%+ of the respondants would willfully lie about paternity in order to secure child support.  DNA tests performed against men named by the mothers show that 30% of them are totally innocent.. were excluded as the childs biological father.  Having no recourse for victims of paternity fraud is designed into the system by the State.    That if you, your husband, your son, your father is named as “the dad” then they will pay… forever.  And the damage inflicted on marriages, families, the health of the victim, his family, and the deceived children themselves is preventable and unnecessary.

And it seems that there is no help in sight.  Pleading to Legislatures to put truth and justice into the system falls on deaf ears.  Federal funds are distributed to States for every child support case they process and manage.  As long as they can name anyone and make them pay the State government gets the benefit of Federal largess.  There arn’t support groups, financial assistance, counseling, or any other help available to the families who are paying for children they had no part in bringing in to this world.  “But what about these children?” is a common rebuke we hear.  Well, what about these children?    Since the mother of these children either lied or simply doesn’t know who the real father is these children have no valid paternal medical history available.  They are emotionally damaged due to the lie their mother constructed for them to live.  Money collected on their behalf cannot fix this.  Only by honoring the real truth can.

The mothers that choose to lie (or just don’t know which guy) fathered their children are the only beneficiaries of this fraud.  This is not in the best interest of our children.  Many States consider their forcing non-biological “fathers” to pay is part of mandating parental relationships with the children.  Most of the cases we’ve seen the mothers are preventing contact, have moved away, or they have never had contact with the children.    Sometimes this is the man’s choice.     However there are hundreds of thousands of cases where all these mothers really want for their child is money. They do not believe that having a father in their child’s life is important and even if they do they are ignoring the real father of the child.  Children are inflicted with damage that will never heal when they discover that the person their mother told them was their father isn’t.  Where they really come from and who is the real dad stresses them out even further.  All since their mother either doesn’t know who fathered her children or has chosen to lie about it.

Then you look at the biological children of this same man….  They have to live with the lack of finances, high stress, and demoralization of a system that should be preventing this.    These children have to suffer financially and emotionally throughout their lives. Many times these children are in an environment filled with stress, hardship, and marital difficulty caused solely by paternity fraud.  The hardships of this are something they should not have to suffer.  They see that they can benefit from fraud and lying.  What message is it that we are sending to these children?    Allowing paternity fraud is definitely not in their best interest.

We need to end this injustice to our children.  We need to make a positive example in Missouri and show every other State that paternity fraud will not be tolerated here.  The time to end paternity fraud in Missouri is now.  Our children cannot afford less.